Archive for the ‘Disappointment’ Category

Hope In Darkness: Dealing With Disappointment

September 8, 2010

If you’re a glutton for rejection, become an author. I’m unaware of any other career where hours, week, months of labor crafting your work is declined in a rejection letter composed in a few minutes or in a form letter.

Life is challenging for authors. How I wish writing was like it was in grade school. You turn in your assignment; the teacher reads your work, grades and returns it. Good teachers find something positive to compliment. Sometimes you get a smiley face

It’s not like that in today’s writing world. Just getting a publisher to look at your work takes tremendous labor and diligence. Getting them to publish your writing takes an act of God.

I recently complimented a friend on an article she published. She shared that my encouraging works penetrated her heart like a needed therapy. After a few exciting months of publishers responding, “Yes, we’d like to see your manuscript.” She is now experiencing the painful wave of, “We’ve looked at it and will pass.” These are the words that make an hourly paid job an appealing relief.

Part of writing is searching for the right home for your work. The searching time can leave you feeling homeless. When open doors are closed shut, the light of desired possibilities you’ve envisioned  is extinguished leaving you in darkness. We all know the disappointment of failed plans, unsatisfied desires, and the discouragement of painful circumstances.

Christ experienced three hours of darkness at Calvary. Rejections were hurled at him, he was mocked, blackness filled the world and his soul, but resurrection followed. What’s amazing is our all seeing God, unlike us, has the ability to see and work in the dark. In absolute blackness, he conquered sin, death, demonic forces, and the power of Hell.

I’m curious what God is working in the darkness of my friend’s life. I believe an incredible story is unfolding that will eventually be a story worth writing about.

Personal Prayer


When life appears dark and I’m unable to see that anything positive, help me remember that, even while darkness filled the earth, You conquered sin and death. When doors of opportunity close and my desired outcomes dissolve, remind me that You are at work behind closed doors doing amazing things.

 Reflection Question

What darkness are you facing?

How does Christ’s life and death bring you hope during times of darkness?

Thought to Ponder

Give our Lord the benefit of believing that his hand is leading you,

And accept the anxiety of feeling yourself in suspense and incomplete.

Pierre Teilhard do Chardin

Quote to Consider

“When a train goes through a tunnel and it gets dark, you don’t throw away the ticket and jump off. You sit still and trust the engineer.”

Corrie ten Boom

When My Plans Compete With God’s

June 25, 2010

The heart of man plans his way, but the LORD establishes his steps. Proverbs 16:9

Shortly after leaving the elementary classroom in order to pursue my “next chapter” as a writer, I purchased tickets to attend a writer’s conference and flew 735 miles to pitch my study guide to a publishing agent. Upon arriving, I was informed that the agent scheduled to meet with me was sick and wouldn’t be attending.

This discovery devastated me and shattered all my plans. My investment of time, money, and energy was non-refundable. In my highly emotional state I retreated to my room, fell to my knees, and I’m uncertain whether I did more praying or crying. For a brief moment, I quieted myself to whisper a plea for God to somehow reveal His plan in the midst of my disappointment.

While reaching for a tissue, my eyes glanced at the title of my study guide, “Embracing Joy Whatever Your Experience.” It was then that it hit, the outcomes I desired for this conference were my desires that I formed into my plans and assumed they were God’s desires. It was time to surrender my failed plans and invite God to reveal what he desired for me thorough this conference.

Although I didn’t leave the conference with a book contract, I left free of personal desires that would have blinded me from discovering God’s plans for me during this conference.  

Personal Response

  • Be aware of the danger in assuming your desires and plans are God’s.
  • Ask God not to bless what you are doing but to help you do what He wants to bless.